Lisa Ann is retired from the adult industry and despite being one of the most celebrated performers of her generation, her own parents shunned her it. Here we take a glimpse inside the bitter family feud
Lisa Ann is one of the world’s most successful and recognisable adult stars of all time.
Despite being retired from the industry – she still has 4.6million Instagram followers – and is deemed the “original MILF” by many who are interested in her erotic content.
The legendary racy actress is now a sports commentator who lives a glamorous lifestyle. But behind her pearly white smile and warm personality sits personal struggles she’s spent decades desperately attempting to fix.
No matter how hard she persevered, Lisa recently realised that her relationship with her family could never be repaired.
The influencer, now 51, does not speak about the ugly and bitter feud often – and her troubles with her parents is something that many of her fans are unaware of.
Below, we take a look at her rise to international stardom that coincided with being shunned by loved ones who turned their backs on her.
Lisa is from Easton, Pennsylvania. In her autobiography, she described herself as being a rebellious teenager who became a dancer. Her memoir The Life also goes into detail about her complicated childhood.
She maintained a strong relationship with her grandfather who was a Second World War pH๏τographer – but her bond with her parents apparently became toxic when she became a porn star in the 1990s.
Lisa recently told New York Post that she joined the industry out of “survival”. And in chat with The Guardian she acknowledged that she wasn’t the most sought after performer back then.
But her popularity exploded when the ‘MILF’ porn category took off and when she parodied former Alaska governor Sarah Palin in a movie called Who’s Nailin’ Paylin? This also led to her impersonating the politician in an Eminem music video.
But while her career was at its height, her connection to her mum and dad was crumbling.
Giving an insight into her personal life, she told the Holly Randall Unfiltered podcast: “I have found peace with it and I have found peace with the understanding that for too many years I carried the blame for getting into porn as the reasons why my parents treated me horribly.
“My dad didn’t speak to me from the time I was 16 years old till I was 40 and he had a stroke and I had come home. A neighbour had called me and said ‘your dad had a stroke’. We connected for a couple of years, it was very awkward, weird.
“When I walked into my dad’s house it was like I had died. He had every pH๏τo ever taken of me on this one wall like a weird shrine. And then when you go to my mom’s house she wants to act like I’m ᴅᴇᴀᴅ because she doesn’t want to ᴀssociate with me because I am a porn star so there are no pH๏τos of me in her house.
“The way that alone played on my emotions was heavy… But I have made peace with the fact that they can never understand me. It is a small town mindset. They are stuck on stupid with the fact that I am a horrible person because I do porn and any time I want to address my abuse as a child my mum would bring this up.”
She also claimed her mother lied to her about her grandad’s funeral service – which led to her missing it.
Heartbroken, she approached her about why it happened but was told that ‘we really don’t wanna be seen with you’.
Expanding, Lisa claimed: “She wouldn’t eat out in a restaurant with me, she wouldn’t let me go into a store with her, my life with them was at her house or at my dad’s house, it wasn’t in public.”
Lisa said she wanted to sit down and talk to them about how the estrangement made her feel over the years – but stopped trying to reconnect when they allegedly threatened to disown her for good.
In her book she called it the Russian Roulette moment. And reflecting on it, she said: “My whole family got together and said ‘we are never talking to her again’.
“During the pandemic they didn’t reach out, don’t know if they know where I live, but I reconnected with all my friends from my hometown and during the pandemic I would rent a car and see my friends.
“I am at peace with it because I feel better about myself, not trying to prove myself to a family that doesn’t accept me and will never accept me.
“I remind them that they failed me, I remind them that I have gone out on my own and been successful without their help. I think my parents would much rather me be a girl in the business who became addicted to drugs and was living under a bridge somewhere, they don’t want to me to be successful.”
She also said rekindling things with parents was the one obsession she could never correct – but she now feels better for finally letting them go.
The former adult actress also believes there is too much emphasis on family in society and that it is ok to find love elsewhere.
Lisa, who has sH๏τ more than 350 films, concluded by saying that spending years seeking out her family when she got nothing in return was ultimately time wasted.
She explained: “All that time I could have been with people who loved me for me, like my friends I have been telling you about and the relationships that have become so valuable in my life.
“I discounted them while trying to fix this, they loved me unconditionally and they were there for me but we all want the love of our parents, that is just naturally normal thing but not everything works.”
Lisa, who has no kids of her own, has made sure her parents are not in her will. She believes they would shamelessly come for her money if anything happened to her.